When You Need Some Advice Don’t Ask Twice… Ask Dr. Karen!
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Dear Dr. Karen
My daughter is 17 years old, and she has dated her boyfriend who is 16 since they started high school. She knows that I will not allow her to spend the night with him in our home, even though she has asked me a thousand times. His mom has no problem with her spending the night at his house. I don’t approve of it and I feel she is disrespecting me. What should I do?
Old School Mom
Dear Old School Mom:
She can ask you one thousand and one times, but if this is your position then you must stand by it. There are an alarming amount of teenagers whose parents today allow their boyfriend/girlfriends to spend the night. These parents may think that they are being cool but children need and want boundaries and discipline. They look to their parents for guidance and to help them make the right decisions.
Speak with the parent(s) of the boyfriend and let them know how you feel and explain to your daughter why you are not ok with this. It is your daughter and it is your right to be concerned about her welfare. You don’t have to give permission for her to spend the night but listen to her side of the story. You’re not going to like it but listen anyway. Stay away from a shouting match. You don’t want to risk the chance of pushing her away. You want her to know that you love her and want the best for her. You are probably going to start World War III but you are the General. You are in charge!
Question: I grew up with an old school mom. I wouldn’t have dared to ask her to spend the night at a boys house. What about you? Would you let your teen’s boyfriend or girlfriend stay over night?
***Dr. Karen R. January is an expert in youth development as well as male-female relationships. Her book, ¨Lessons Mama Never Taught Me,¨ profiles 10 women and the mistakes they made in parenting, love and life. It can be purchased at Amazon.com. Please send your questions to Dr. Karen at askdrjanuary@gmail.com.
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