When You Need Some Advice Don’t Ask Twice… Ask Dr. Karen!
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Dear Dr. Karen
I know this may sound strange, but both my wife and I were virgins prior to marriage. She was 18 and I was 20 years old. It’s been a year, and we are still virgins. The reason being is she worries about getting pregnant and not being ready to be a mother.
I waited a long time to make love to the lady of my life, but I’ve waited for nothing. This has caused me to look at other women and to contemplate a life without my wife. I now treat her with less respect than I ever imagined I could. I have been deprived of something essential to marriage, and not only do I now not love my wife, I feel no attraction anymore. This experience has been humiliating and unbearable.
Being two innocent people coming together on their wedding night was probably a little awkward, but usually you will find a way to get the bedroom party started. It seems like there is more to this story then just worrying about getting pregnant.
What should have happened a year ago has been lost now. Your feelings have been replaced with anger, disrespect, and frustration. This has caused irreparable damage to your relationship.
Your wedding night and the beginning of your union has been permanently spoiled, but your life doesn’t have to be. Nearly all religions and legal systems allow an unconsummated marriage to be dissolved. If your feelings of discontent are real, this is an option you should seriously consider. You don’t have to stay hot and horny!
* Question: Would you have been able to stay a year in a sexless marriage?
***Dr. Karen R. January is an expert in youth development as well as male-female relationships. Her book, ¨Lessons Mama Never Taught Me,¨ profiles 10 women and the mistakes they made in parenting, love and life. It can be purchased at Amazon.com. Please send your questions to Dr. Karen at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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