- Created on 17 June 2013
Darious Calhoun, Jr., a 6-year-old boy, was caught in an illegal gun sale shooting Sunday before 8 p.m. near Mongo Circle and Monteel Drive in Atlanta while outside playing.
Witnesses said that when the would-be buyer didn't make a purchase, the shooting began.
"Gun shots, I just saw people running up the street," Anthony Dowdell told CBS Atlanta. "Somebody went up the street and started shooting at the vehicle. During the process the little kid who was riding the bike got shot."
Calhoun, Jr. was shot in the lower back and the bullet exited in the front.
"He was just shocked. He was feeling it. He was holding it and he was bleeding everywhere. He didn't want to say anything at all," Taquavious Dunlap, Calhoun's 14-year-old cousin, told CBS Atlanta.
Calhoun, Jr. is being treated at Children's Healthcare of Atlanta and police are still investigating the shooting. So far, no arrest has been made.
EDITOR'S NOTE: Previous versions of this story mistakenly reported that Calhoun was 8 years old.
- Created on 17 June 2013
(CNN) -- Melanie Servetas lived the American dream. She had a six-figure salary as an executive with Wells Fargo, a Jaguar and a three-bedroom house in sunny Southern California. But then, she fell in love.
She met someone from Brazil on an online dating service. They chatted over the Internet and by phone for five months and decided they wanted to be together.
That's where this simple love story gets very complicated.
Servetas' partner is a woman, Claudia Amaral. If she were a man, the two could get married and Servetas could apply for her spouse to be admitted to the United States and eventually gain permanent residency.
But current immigration law does not allow a U.S. citizen in a same-sex relationship to sponsor his or her spouse or partner. There are nearly 30,000 such couples in America who now find themselves in the crosshairs of two critical national debates: the 1996 Defense of Marriage Act, or DOMA, and immigration reform.
Even if Servetas were to marry Amaral in the District of Columbia or one of the 12 states that allow gay marriage, that marriage would be invisible as far as immigration law is concerned. Servetas could not sponsor her wife because of DOMA, which prohibits the federal government from recognizing same-sex marriages.
So Servetas, 48, gave up her life in the United States and moved to Brazil, where she launched an information technology company. The company is struggling and Servetas misses everything about America. But she cannot imagine a life without Amaral.
"Our life is surrounded by uncertainty. We live in limbo all the time," she said, not knowing if one day her work visa in Brazil might not be extended. She goes to sleep every night worrying that tomorrow, she may be separated from the woman she loves.
The Supreme Court is poised to hand down a decision on DOMA any day. If the justices strike it down, bi-national gay couples will gain the same immigration rights as heterosexual married couples.
At the same time, Patrick Leahy, a Democratic senator from Vermont, has filed an amendment to an immigration reform bill in the Senate that would afford gay couples equality in immigration sponsorship.
Steve Ralls, spokesman for Immigration Equality, an organization that has been working on this issue for two decades, said for the first time, the LGBT community is optimistic that immigration policy will become less discriminatory.
"As of today, we are stuck in a race to see who's going to solve the problem first," Ralls said. "If the Senate bill is about to receive its final vote and either we do not have a court ruling or we have a bad court ruling, then (Leahy's) amendment becomes absolutely critical for binational couples."
The amendment, however, doesn't sit well with conservatives and even with more liberal lawmakers who believe it could potentially derail the entire immigration reform bill. The chances of Leahy's amendment passing, say immigration activists, are slim to none.
In any case, if the Supreme Court strikes down DOMA, the immigration amendment would be moot.
"I can't sleep thinking about all this," Servetas said from her residence in Rio de Janeiro.
A bill to recognize same-sex partners for immigration purposes was first introduced in Congress in 2000. Since then countless couples have been separated or have had to make the same difficult decision as Servetas and leave home.
In Atlanta, Nepal native Satyam Barakoti, 36, has grown resolute in her efforts to establish a normal life, despite the dark immigration cloud that hangs over her.
She and her partner, Tonja Holder, have been together five years and run a nonprofit consulting agency. They bought a house, and Barakoti is halfway through her first pregnancy. (More than 17,000 children in this country are being raised by binational couples.)
Holder and Barakoti have picked out names: Kabir if it's a boy and Annapurna for a girl.
But come February, Barakoti's temporary work visa, known as an H-1B, will expire, and she could very likely have to leave America. Holder cannot sponsor her for permanent residency or what's more commonly called a green card. Barakoti's child will be born a U.S. citizen, but under current law, children cannot sponsor parents until they are 21.
"We're kind of waiting to see what happens in the Supreme Court. Our options are very murky," Barakoti said.
They could move to Nepal, but it will be difficult there for Holder. She's 47, settled in Atlanta and doesn't speak Nepali. The two have discussed moving elsewhere, maybe to immigration-friendly Canada.
Mercer University law professor Scott Titshaw, who practiced immigration law for 12 years, described "love-exiled" cases as one of the few instances in which he has given this advice: Go north.
"Marriage is just so important to U.S. immigration law," Titshaw said.
Canada is the top destination for same-sex binational couples in the United States because of proximity and its immigration system. Canada uses a point system to determine who will be allowed in to live and work. Applicants are awarded points for proficiency in education, job experience and language skills. If one partner qualifies for immigration status in Canada, he or she can sponsor the other.
Shehan Welihindha, 31, of Sri Lanka and his spouse, Ryan Wilson, 29, live in South Carolina, a state that bans same-sex marriage. They were among the first seven couples to get married in Maryland -- Wilson grew up in Baltimore -- on New Year's Day after that state approved same-sex marriage last fall.
But now, with an expiration date on Welihindha's student visa, they're considering Canada.
Welihindha watched his brother marry an American woman and become a citizen. His younger sister married an American man and within a very short time, she received her green card. But when Welihindha's visa expires, he will either have to find a job with a company that might sponsor him or leave.
"When we think about graduation or starting a family, it takes us back to that root conversation about immigration," said Welihindha from his home in Columbia, South Carolina.
In all, 31 countries recognize same-sex relationships for immigration purposes. Some, like Great Britain, don't have legalized same-sex marriage but still recognize same-sex couples.
That's why Brandon Perlberg, 35, abandoned his law career in New York and moved to London to be with his partner, Benn Storey. Even though the state of New York approved same-sex marriage in 2011, a wedding was not going to help when Storey's temporary work visa ran out.
"You don't get more committed than giving up your country," Perlberg said. "That's the value DOMA was supposed to be protecting. Isn't marriage all about the sanctity of commitment?"
Perlberg is angry -- not at his partner but at his country -- for having to give up everything he cherished and begin again in a foreign land.
Psychology professor Nadine Nakamura is researching people like Perlberg and the emotional toll of having to live in exile for the sake of preserving a relationship.
"The whole situation of not knowing what the future holds and kind of having to wait with bated breath to see what politicians or the Supreme Court decides creates a great deal of anxiety," said Nakamura, who teaches at the University of La Verne in southern California. "A lot of same-sex binational couples have a hard time trying to figure out what their future looks like."
Barakoti said she has lived with that anxiety since she arrived in the United States in 2001, constantly filing paperwork for visa applications including an employer-based green card sponsorship that was rejected. It became so all-consuming that she decided not to fret about it anymore. She and Holder are bracing for a high court decision that will not be in their favor.
"Whatever they throw at us, we'll manage," Holder said.
They know one thing: No matter what, they will find a way to be together. But no one, they said, should have to choose between love and country.
- Created on 16 June 2013
After being separated for 24 years, a father and daughter were reunited, only to discover the two had been volunteering at the same exact rescue mission for several months.
Amy Roberson, who was put up for adoption by her birth parents 24 years ago, recently got the courage to call her father Will Russell in hopes of reuniting. ”It took a lot for me...
- Created on 17 June 2013
Former South African president Nelson Mandela is recovering well from a lung infection after spending eight days in a Pretoria hospital, his grandson Mandla Mandela says. Mandla claims the 94 year old “looked good,” after a recent hospital visit.
“Madiba is recovering very well and looks good,” Mandla Mandela said in Qunu, a village in the Eastern C...
- Created on 16 June 2013
First-time fathers experience many emotions: love, responsibility, protectiveness, and even fear. And whatever the father's relationship is with the baby's mother, both parents' lives are forever changed.
But it's important to remember that while much of the attention may be on new mothers, fathers can -- and do -- perform all aspects of child care (except breastfeeding).
According to the National Responsible Fatherhood Clearinghouse (NRFC), fathers of infants face special challenges. These tips, when followed, can help reduce stress and build healthy routines.
Tip #1: Learn to survive without sleep. Babies do not have established sleep patterns that align with yours. Especially during the first few months, it is important to sleep when you can. If the baby is napping, try to take a nap, too. And, when possible, go to bed early so that when the baby wakes up during the night you will awaken having had some rest.
Tip #2: Manage stress. Your baby is 100 percent dependent on others for all of his or her needs. And many of your caregiving responsibilities may be brand new. This can be stressful. Do your best to eat well, exercise, and accept help from others -- grandparents, siblings, or close friends -- who can give you and the baby's mother a break.
Tip #3: Share in the feeding. Even if the baby's mother is breastfeeding, you can participate by bringing the baby to her or changing the baby's diaper. If it is a late-night feeding, you can take the baby afterwards until he has gone to sleep. The more rested each member of the family is, the less stress there will be.
Tip #4: Establish a routine. We are all creatures of habit. The sooner you establish a routine for the baby the sooner he or she will adopt regular sleeping habits, which will be good for the entire family.
Tip #5: Give Mom a break. Take the baby out of the house for an hour or so -- for a walk, to the grocery store, wherever -- to ensure that Mom has some down time.
Tip #6: Invest in your relationship. While each of you is getting used to your new role --"father" or "mother"-- don't forget that you are parents together. Continue to support each other as you incorporate a third person into your established relationship. And dads, recognize that you likely will no longer be the #1 focus in the family.
Tip #7: Build trust. When an infant cries, your response will begin to establish trust. Providing a consistent, timely response shows the baby that you care and can be counted on.
Tip #8: Live with imperfection. No one is perfect. Neither are you. Being a parent is a new adventure. Learn from your experiences and talk to other dads to gain other perspectives. As long as you provide a safe, nurturing environment for your baby, you will learn how to become a better parent.
A good resource for new parents, especially mothers, is text4baby. Simply text "BABY" (or "BEBE" for Spanish) to 511411 to receive three free text messages a week, timed to the mother's due date or the baby's birth date, through pregnancy and up until the baby's first birthday.
Tip #9: Keep good records. It's important to ensure you have key information that you will need to refer to throughout the years. This includes your pediatrician's contact information, as well as the baby's immunization schedule, birth certificate, and Social Security Number.
Tip #10: Enjoy today! Learn to enjoy this unique time in your baby's life when the most basic things -- riding in the stroller, watching a ceiling fan, or trying new foods -- are both new and exciting.
"Learning from other fathers and sharing your own experiences results in children who have more engaged, positive relationships with their dads," says NRFC Kenneth Braswell. "The larger the circle of caring adults the more likely children will know that they are loved."
For more information, visit www.fatherhood.gov or call 877-4DAD411. Stay in touch with the NRFC on Facebook and Twitter.