Lifestyles Report…Cupid, where is your bow?

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DEBBIE NORRELL

If you have been inside of a retail store you know that Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. One store I stopped in already has Easter and St. Patrick’s Day decorations on display. Give me a break, I still have my Christmas tree up.
There are a lot of us who don’t have sweethearts, we’re flying solo; but Valentine’s Day always makes me pause and think, “What if I did have a sweetie?”
Dana Michel, founder and president of a new dating site called Marriage Material, gives advice to ensure you have a date on Valentine’s Day.  She says, “now is the time to decide if you are going to use Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to have fun and meet someone new or be depressed. Hopefully, you will decide to be happy.”

No. 1: Get a wingman/­wing­woman
Get a friend to go out with you on Valentine’s Day. His/her job is to help you strike up conversations with interesting people.

No. 2: Select an ethnic restaurant
Organize a Valentine’s dinner at an ethnic restaurant. Authentic ethnic restaurants tend to have the least amount of decorations because Valentine’s Day is not celebrated in many countries. Ask each person to bring a single friend.

No. 3:   clean up your social media
You should assume anyone interested will Google your name. Therefore, revisit and update all of your social media ASAP! Make sure you don’t have a shrine to your ex!

No. 4: Be proactive and open
Decide to talk to at least one new person a day.  It can be as short as “Hi, my name is Heidi.

No. 5: Attend a Valentine’s Day event just for singles
There are a lot of events for singles right now. The objective is to mingle: look for events that interest you; so that you can meet like-minded people.
Be sure to follow the rules at the event:
•Listen intently and ask questions. Do not interrogate.
•Valentine’s Day is just one day of the year.  Don’t read meaning into the evening just because it falls on the holiday.  A first date is merely an opportunity for both parties to decide if they want to spend more time together.
•Don’t constantly check your phone for texts and emails.  It is rude.
•Don’t prolong the conversation if you are not interested. Be polite, but don’t lead anyone on.
•We live in a culture where most people overshare…Resist the temptation!  Your date is not your therapist.
No. 6: Love Yourself
Don’t succumb to the pressure.   You have two options—Go out or stay home. Being sad should not be on the menu.
This is some good advice Ms. Dana. A few things that are on my list for Feb. 14: No. 1—send myself flowers. I love flowers, why should I wait for them to come from someone else? No. 2—I send Valentines cards to my male and female friends. The single ones really appreciate them. No. 3—bring in a sweet treat to the office and make it a great day.
(Check out https://www.marriagematerial.com.)
(Email the columnist at debbienorrell@aol.com)
 
 

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