From Bachelorette To Bride & Everything In Between is a new feature that focuses on the the journey of Nina–a single girl, turned girlfriend, turned fiance–who wants to share all the good, bad and ugly that happens when preparing for marriage as a modern woman. Her journey is hilarious, painful and refreshing. Follow us as we follow her through this new rite of passage.
Here is a piece of information you probably aren’t ready for. All of your girlfriends, with these silly “couples” posts on social media about being so in love everyday, who can’t hold a conversation without mentioning their fiance’s or husband’s name ad nauseam have lied to you by omission.
Yes, your homegirls have sold you a dream about “Fairy Tale Weddings” and “Happily Ever After” and everything it takes to get “there” and survive. Forget the guys in the clubs selling dreams about how they want to wife you and set you up in a deluxe apartment in the sky, your girlfriends and these faux tales of romanticism forever are the predators.
How do I know ? I will tell you how I know !!! It’s because I fell for it too !
Year after year, wedding after wedding, disgusting posts after disgusting posts of them and their husbands had me DYING to be in the number. And let’s not factor in the fact I am no longer a spring chicken and my eggs are threatening to turn into powder at any second if I don’t have a baby soon. It was rough being a single successful chick in New York City without any prospects for a husband and I sooooo desperately desired to be married because being married was presented to me by my girlfriends, and chicks I just hung out with on occasion, through rose colored Chanel rimmed glasses.
“Grrrrrrrr, where is he ????”
And then it happened.
After exhausting the pool of every emotionally unavailable Black man in NYC, I declared my independence from the game. Standing smack dead in the middle of Brooklyn, at a very festive outdoor gathering, I declared “NO MORE!” Verbatim, I said out loud, “I’m sick of this sh*t! I’m going to meet me somebody nice….today, damnit !” With my arms folded, and snap back pulled down over my weave, I turned around and saw a very nice looking man.
I excused myself from my friends, walked over to him, tapped him on his shoulder, reached down and grabbed his hand, and while his mouth was still hanging open from sheer amazement of my chutzpah (I later learned he was talking to another girl when I interrupted him) I said, “How old are you ?”
Four years later…we are getting married….and good LAWD!!!
Let me tell you, the stress, fears, compromises and anxiety that come along with planning a wedding and a marriage are rarely discussed in truth. But, I am here to help in exposing my truth as a future wife.
So here goes. Stick around, I have so much to share about evolving from a bachelorette to a bride and everything in between. This is a true story with no unnecessary hype or shenanigans. I am going to give it to you straight, no chaser.
About the Author: She holds multiple degrees, is a natural born socialite, a business owner, an extreme exerciser of faith and a realist. After 3 years of dating and a year of being engaged, she is ready to tell the truth about what to expect when you are transitioning from being a single woman with no worries to a future wife. For the sake of these articles, let’s just call her Nina. After all, that was here “Club Name” for over 15 years….so yeah, introducing Nina.
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